Let me guess ...
At the end of the day you can’t wait to put your feet up and chill with a drink, even though you feel guilty because you’ve not given the kids and your partner the quality time they deserve.
You are exhausted, run down and feel like you never have time for yourself anymore. Your head is full of ‘stuff’ and you just want to switch off and numb out from the day.
I remember always feeling on edge, stressed and completely shattered. I would always be thinking of my to-do list, but didn’t have the energy to get anything done. I was usually nursing a hangover, a nauseous stomach, and trying to eat and sleep my way to feeling better.
When the kids were younger I would drop them at school, come home and go straight back to bed feeling depressed, full of shame and guiltily for letting myself get in such a state AGAIN.
This is the part where I’d promise myself that I would cut back and wouldn’t drink today. The famous promises - I am sure you know all about that conversation you have with yourself and how many times you have given in.
As my tolerance grew I would get home from work, open a strong beer, start to cook dinner while pouring my first glass of wine, which would turn into several & before the night was out I was opening my second bottle.
I painfully remember one weekend when my teenage son called to say his last train home had been cancelled. I was several glasses in and couldn’t make the trip. I felt useless as a mother & ashamed for not being there when he needed me.
It was the final straw when I needed more wine and got in the car knowing I was over the limit, that scared me, I knew I had to do something about my drinking.
I have been where you are now.
I have been that loud, brash woman in the pub who can’t remember getting home. I have been the one over the limit and driven home from a friends or to the store for more drink.
Sat late at night on social media putting the world to rights and telling a few home truths. Upsetting friends and family after a few glasses and saying things I regret the next day or can’t even remember saying.
I’m all too familiar with the unbearable embarrassment, guilt and shame the following day, and despite the promise I made to myself at 3am not to drink, the memory is already fading, and I’m looking forward to opening my first bottle.
Having to get up for work and face a busy day with a pounding head, and nauseous stomach. Still feeling light headed from the previous night's drinking and driving to work worrying I'm still over the limit.
My partner thought it was easy, ‘just don’t drink in the week’, easy for him to say, he wasn’t dealing with the obnoxious boss, or stressed out with too much to do at work and teenage kids to navigate.
I needed my wine. It helped with the grief I was feeling, the inadequacies, the overwhelm and the stress, but eventually, enough was enough.
There was no ‘rock bottom’ for me, but I finally came to a place where change needed to happen. I felt like an imposter in my own body. I wasn’t the person I used to be, and I didn’t like the person I saw in the mirror.
I got up one day and decided that today was the day.
A couple of days in, I searched on the internet for some tips on staying alcohol free and found some quit lit books and podcasts to listen to. I bought the ‘This Naked Mind’ book and signed up to The 30 day Alcohol Experiment with Annie Grace.
I managed a week without drinking, then another and then a whole month. I had only ever gone alcohol free for a month before with Sober October, but this felt different.
I wasn’t ‘white knuckling’ like I had been before and using pure willpower because the method I was using was changing the way I thought about alcohol.
I began to see an improvement in how I felt and I was hopeful for the first time in years that I could do this. I began to feel I was making headway.
I was able to sleep through the night without waking with the 3am anxiety. I was feeling more energised, and occupying my mind with new self-help practices, and new hobbies.
My relationship with my husband was improving. He was still drinking, but it no longer bothered me. In fact, the smell was a turn off, and it wasn’t a substance I wanted to put into my body anymore. My mind had been totally transformed and he was liking the less ‘tetchy’ argumentative wife.
The best feeling about being free from the urge to drink, is having the freedom to go out to dinner and not have to fight about who would drive back. As each month passed, I became more confident.
I could now volunteer to take the kids out in the evenings, and not feel like I was missing out on my ‘chill time’ with my wine. The presence of mind and clarity I had was so worth it. I was loving my new life, I was starting to like myself again.
As my journey continues, I have found that alcohol has completely taken a back seat, and the month by month reset has morphed into the new me. I am a completely different person to what I was in October 2019.
I get to wake up early, refreshed and ready to start a new day, with energy and enthusiasm. I know it sounds weird to say if you are still drinking, but having a taste of what total freedom is like is completely addictive - you just want more!
I have taken up yoga and continue with self-development, still devouring podcasts and self-learning webinars. Mindfulness and living in the moment has been a life saver for me.
I can now see how alcohol held me back, and how every glass I drank placed another link in the chain to the shackles I was wearing. I was so thankful that I had decided to take back control, to break free from decades of addiction.
I no longer want to numb out. I no longer crave the ‘escape’, or anticipate that glass of liquid that I thought would solve all my problems, and make me feel better. It isn’t what society makes it out to be - the elixir of life, the ‘happy juice’ that makes all your problems go away. It’s a stealer of life, a charade, a con and a lie.
Alcohol didn’t do anything for me. It promised to fix my problems but it just made things worse!
My life is now unrecognisable. I now feel all the feels. I’m present for my family, and free to choose the direction of my life. I had set my sail and dropped the rudder, no longer drifting with no purpose, but rather on course to live my best life.
This programme is for Mum's,
who want to get off the alcohol merry-go-round
A 90 day alcohol free strategy for mums who want to address their relationship with alcohol. Mums who have tried many times to moderate or give up but just can’t kick the habit.
My Bespoke 90 Day Alcohol Free Strategy will give you:
Bespoke weekly one on one coaching with me
Personal 24/7 WhatsApp support
Personal email support
Access to my teaching videos
Access to my private members area
Access to my portal containing files, guides & valuable resources
My strategy will walk you through the reasons why you drink, mindset around alcohol, how to conquer cravings and the science behind why we are addicted to alcohol.
You will have the opportunity to examine your personal relationships, and build on your confidence, so that at the end of the programme you will have the skills you need to control alcohol and conquer not only your desire to drink and improve your self-esteem, but empower yourself to become that confident woman and build on those meaningful relationships with the ones you love.
The video teachings, emails and one-to-one sessions will be a lynch-pin on your 90 day alcohol-free journey. My strategy and expertise will give you the skills, habits and tools you need to live your best life.
First things first - what’s the investment?
I am an upfront kind of girl so I want you to know that my 90 day programme is only a third of what my yearly average spend was on alcohol. I was shelling out a MINIMUM of £15 a day on beer and wine, that's over £450 per month, racking up £6,000 over the year! The investment you will be making in your health & wellbeing will give you 24/7 support & access to ALL my services.
How do I find out more?
Fill in your contact details on the "contact" page and I will schedule an informal chat to discuss your needs and see if my programme is suitable for you. I do not work with anyone who has a physical dependence on alcohol.
How do I enrol?
If we agree that the programme is right for you, I will send you a written proposal while on the call outlining the content of the programme and investment required.
How do I pay?
Payment is taken via PayPal, or bank transfer. A payment plan can be arranged.
How soon can I start?
Once you have secured your place, we will schedule a one to one 90 minute "Deep Dive" meeting to discuss your plan and agree a start date.
Is there a refund policy?
Yes, you will need to inform me within the first 30 days of starting the programme if you do not wish to continue.
What happens to my personal data?
Your personal information is kept to a minimum. With your consent, I will record and securely store your personal information (name, address, mobile number & email). Consent to keep your personal information can be withdrawn at anytime by contacting me directly. Your personal information will not be shared with anyone else unless I need to comply with a legal or regulatory body.
How can I access the course if I am not on social media?
Please contact me to discuss other options.
What happens after I finish the programme?
There will be the opportunity to join my subscription service, where I will provide ongoing support. You can cancel at anytime.
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